Who are you judging?

Love is a fickle, fickle mistress.

It's effects are so intoxicating it can make even the most laid-back, reasonable and pragmatic person absolutely freak the fuck out and lose their shit. So, really not that dissimilar to booze.

Right in the face

 What I don't understand is when people say they're in love and they can't possibly see their lives with out the other person, they occupy their every waking thought, they wake up thinking about the other person and go to sleep at night doing the same. But then they go out on the weekend, have a few shots and casually bang someone else.

Is this love? Is this all-consuming, passionate, can't-live-without-each other love?

One minute they could be proclaiming their undying love for each other and the next, one of them is pulling on their jeans as they're hopping out the door of their latest one night stands.

A friend of mine is currently in a long-distance relationship. He lives on one side of the country and his partner lives on the other. They didn't start off with the most solid of relationships, he was consistently seeing other people during the formative months, however now he considers the relationship "excusive" and has done for a year or so.

NB: "Exclusive" being he's cheated on her intermittently over the life of their relationship - but she's still the "one"

So, he's thinking this is it, this is the girl I'm going to marry and spend the rest of my life with. I'm going to quit my well-paying job and move cross-country for her. As he's telling me this I'm thinking great. Settle down, have kids, do whatever it is you people want to do. But it's what isn't said that's ringing alarm bells for me.

Who? I dunno, I just woke up and they were here!

This guy, who has apparently found his dream-girl, who regularly scrolls through pictures of engagement rings wondering which one she'd prefer, is the same guy who can't wait to tell me about this "hot little thing" that he took to bed the night before. And apparently this sort of thing is happening more often than we know - and not just with one gender, women do it to.

What do people think they're playing at? They say they've found their partner for life, the one they will always want to be with, but can't bear to be without their nookie on the side. I don't know about you but isn't that warning enough to say that maybe, they're not the right one for you and that you shouldn't settle right now just because it's easy to do so?

I dunno. People are weird.